Definition

Crush: a strong but temporary feeling of liking someone.

Funny enough, the word “crush” can also mean: to press something very hard so that it is broken or its shape is destroyed.

Imagine the situation:

You have a crush on someone, but for whatever reasons nothing ever happened between the two of you, and yet here you are – thinking about that person WAY too much for your own health.

Have you ever experienced this kind of situation?

I think that in a way, everybody experiences this situation at some point in their life. And that’s okay.

Well – it’s not okay. It’s painful and annoying. But you understood what I meant.

Who tends to get hurt by a crush?

If you are the kind of person that overthinks everything, pays too much attention to details and deep down believes in fairy tales – OMG this is me I just described! – then of course you got hurt because of a crush.

Hopefully, you didn’t get hurt like the lovely girl in the picture! That doesn’t look fun at all, does it?

Ups and downs when having a crush:

  • Happiness

A look, a smile, a conversation, a text: all of it can make you melt when it comes from your crush. When he/she shows attention to you, it just makes your day!

  • Confidence

When your crush compliments you: best-feeling-ever! It’s definitely a confidence boost.

  • Disappointment

Yes, your crush is good at making you feel happy. But your crush is also an expert at making you feel sad. He/she can ruin a perfect moment in one instant! For example: you can feel a pinch of disappointment when seeing your crush with someone else, as YOU want to be the one next to him/her.

  • Sorrow

It’s a dangerous thing to be head over heels for someone. You are giving that person power over you. That’s why your crush can easily make you cry, even when not intended.

  • Jealousy

Jealousy is one of the worst feelings. Especially when you have no right to be jealous, as your crush is not yours!

Advice:

If your crush is famous, fictional or totally unsuitable – just forget about it! It’s never going to happen and the sooner you understand it, the sooner you can move on to get back to reality.

If your crush is real, someone you know well – just tell your crush how you feel. It might be complicated, it might seem crazy: but you need to do it. It’s better to be sad knowing the truth, than to wait forever for something that might never happen!

If you told your crush and still nothing is happening (your crush doesn’t like you back or is not willing to do anything about his/her crush on you) – again you need to forget this crush. Or at least erase that person from your life for a little while: you need to put some distance to finally see the situation as it is and move on.

Bottom line: a crush will hurt you, but it won’t kill you! It’s part of life. And even if it is a bad experience for you, it’s still a valuable experience.

Learn from your mistakes, do better next time, and most importantly: don’t forget to smile!

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